Grieving the Loss of a Loved One

My brother-in-law died suddenly last month whennear a bench in the garden. The family had a
he fell from a ladder. We drove to Marylandflower garden with a bench where Don and my
where we celebrated Don's life and visited withsister-in-law often shared a sandwich or a glass of
my husband's family. Don was cremated so thereiced tea. They had never had a rabbit so the
was no physical body for anyone to ogle. Doninformation was puzzling at the time. However, a
was an avid fisherman and loved to be near thefew days later my sister-in-law was looking out
water. It only seemed appropriate that histhe window when she saw a rabbit standing on its
celebration was held at the beach house of somehind legs staring right back at her. After a
dear friends who live on the eastern shore. Eachmoment, the rabbit hopped up onto the bench
person who wanted to speak was given a turn toand sat there again facing the house and looking in
share a story about Don. Afterward, Jimmythe window. Tammy knew it was Don trying to
Buffet music played and margaritas flowed ascommunicate with her.
some cried, others laughed at the memories theySamhain (some call it Halloween) is the time of
shared. I think I cried enough for everyone there;year that we honor those who have gone before
not because Don was gone, but because of theus. It is believed that the veil between the
love everyone was expressing so easily.physical 3-D world and the spirit world is thinnest
Don really isn't gone. His presence was sweet andthen. A lot of people report seeing or having
strong all day. Many felt him near and told how hevisitations from their deceased loved ones in the
has appeared to them since his passing. Somefall season. In my book, More Than Meets the
members of the family called a dear psychicEye, many people told me stories about seeing a
friend of mine, Reverend Cherise Thorne who hadbird or an animal come up and stare right at
offered to connect with Don's spirit and give athem. "Don't you recognize me?" the little guy
message from the Other Sideseems to ask. They just knew it was their loved
(newdawnascension.com). Cherise's message wasone. And, why not? Small animals and birds have
so comforting that the family was hardly showingenergies that are easy for newly passed spirits to
any emotional disturbance. This was perplexing tomanipulate. Not every soul that departs from the
me so I asked a few of them how they werebody crosses over immediately. Especially if there
able to be so strong. Their reply was consistent,is unfinished business with loved ones left behind
"Because Don is here. He is not gone!" I believeor if the death was sudden and unexpected as in
that. When a wreath of flowers was tossed intoDon's case. Sometimes a loved one will become a
the water, it turned around and headed right backspirit guide for a family member they cherish.
into the bay near the house. It stayed there allThree weeks later Tammy is still aware of Don's
afternoon in spite of the wind blowing in everypresence with her.
direction. This, to me, is an indication that DonThe time we spent with my husband's family was
really wasn't ready to leave us and that he'sbeautiful and rich with memories. I didn't know a
planning to hang around for a while longer.lot of the people since I am rather a new-comer
Cherise also told my sister-in-law, Tammy, thatto the family, but there was so much love shared
she saw animals in the spirit when she wasI felt like I had been part of the family forever.
connecting with Don. She described a beloved petAfter all, we are one. And, we are blessed!
that had passed and then she mentioned a rabbit