| There is nothing more frustrating than a | | | | doesn't have anything to do with my mate, I talk |
| relationship that is always in turmoil and in need of | | | | to a life coach who can help me see what I need |
| a referee. Friends and family can be supportive | | | | to do to change and bring more joy into my own |
| but they tend to take sides or else they don't | | | | life and thus my marriage. Then, once I've moved |
| have the qualifications to help as a counselor. If | | | | through that phase and resolved that issue, I |
| one partner is constantly using the other partner | | | | share my experience with my spouse. |
| to "fix" things that are out of balance in the | | | | Life coaches are great resources for letting off |
| relationship, it won't be long before the damage | | | | steam that could harm a relationship. If your life is |
| done by blaming, nagging and childish behavior will | | | | a mess, try talking to a trusted life coach instead |
| ruin the marriage. Many times our issues are | | | | of blaming your partner for something that has |
| about how we view ourselves, our partners and | | | | nothing to do with him/her or your marriage. You |
| romance. | | | | may find your mate supportive and proud of you |
| Once a person has a good sense of self and is | | | | for resolving the matter in a mature way that |
| able to meet most of their own needs, they are | | | | helps both keep the romance alive. |
| ready to make a positive contribution to a | | | | Sometimes, you simply need to hear what the |
| relationship rather than being a drain hole through | | | | other person has to say without jumping to |
| which all the energy seeps out. However, getting | | | | conclusions before you hear the entire matter. |
| to that point is sometimes difficult or slow, and | | | | Maybe a change of scenery is needed--a place to |
| even when you think you've resolved your issues, | | | | get a way from distractions and talk deeply with |
| you may find emotional healing an ongoing | | | | your partner to reconnect and keep your |
| process. Those who are emotionally and mentally | | | | relationship alive. Don't do like I did an ignore |
| healthy still need refresher courses at times. | | | | problems hoping they will go away. Get the help |
| When I am discontent about something in my | | | | you need and make the most out of your |
| relationship, many times it is my own "stuff" at | | | | relationship. |
| the core of the problem. Since the problem | | | | |